MPHS 1961
WELCOME
CONTACT INFORMATION
NEWS
1961--THE YEAR THAT WAS
PANTHER PRATTLE (and Tidbits)
SENIOR-YEAR Photos
CLASSMATE PROFILE UPDATES (2 per page)
IN MEMORIAM
MISSING CLASSMATES
20-YR CLASS REUNION - 1982
30-YR CLASS REUNION - Nov 1991
50-YR CLASS REUNION - 2011
VINTAGE & Misc Photos of our Classmates
ELEMENTARY SCHOOL PHOTOS
SOME OF OUR TEACHERS
ADAIR Mike / AHEARN Pat
AMBRO Wanda / BARGER Jean
BEAUCHAMP Art / BENEDETTO Gerry
BIANCARDI Romy / BOYKO Judy
BRANDSTADTER Nancy / BREITHAUPT Mary Lou
CAMPBELL Bev / CHILSON Barb
CIMINO Jim / CLIFFORD Charlie
CONKLIN Bud / COOMBER Jan
COOPER Jim / COOPER Rick
CORN Stu / COVENY George
CRAIG Bill / CRONK Len
CURRY Ray / DEGENAARS Dick
DUBY Joan / EGGERT Jim
ELDRIDGE Dick / ELSASSER Rich
ELVIN Ken / FARISSIER Wayne
FARNKOFF Irene / FARRELL Warren
FELLS Jim / FIORI Donna
FISHER Mary / GARRETT Kay
GERS Jeannine / GIBSON Charlotte
GNADE George / GOULD Russ
GRASS Linda / GREENWOOD Judy
GREIFF Nancy / GRIMM Mary Ellen
HAMPEL Ed / HANAS Lillian
HARRIS Dick / HARRISON Ruth
HERON Anne / HOERNER Bourgi
HUBBARD Diane / HUBLER Sylvia
HUELSTER Peggy / HUNTER Becky
HUTCHINSON Boib / JELLIFFE Pait
JEWETT Bob / JOHNSON Judy
JORDON Bruce / JUNTA Beverley
KAY Dan / KAY Dave
KELLER Kathy / KIHM Nancy
KINGSLAND Frank / KINNEY Jeff
KNACK Linda / KNYFD Jewel Ann
KOEHLER Karen / LANGERLAAN Jim
LAUDATO Anthony / LAUT Lisa
LeBARON Bobbie / LINNARTZ George
LOCHRIE Carol / MAGGI Nancy
extra
MALTESE Diane / MANNA Don
McLAUGHLIN Rich / McKIM Bonnie
MENNING Chuck / MERBOTH Lynne
MEYERS Shirley / MILLER Ken
MILLER Ned / MILLINGTON Joe
MILNAMOW Dick / MOORE Ron
MOREL Doris / MURPHY Tammy
NADAS Denis / NAGELHOUT Betty
NAUTA Charlene / NESSLEIN Alynne
NIBLETTE Bob / NICKELSBERG Jost
NOBLE Lyn / NSUBA Emmanuel
PAOLILLO Chris / PERINO Stan
PETERS Ron / PISCITELLO Vinnie
PORTLEY Pete / POST Beverley
POTTER Russ / PUFAHL Gini
PYLE John / RINKER Carolyn
RIPKA Paul / RIZZUTO Pat
extra
RUSSELL June / RUSSELL Ruth
St CYR Bob / SCHOONMAKER Olive
SCOTT Bob / SERMEUS Jean
SHEARD Pat / SMITH Carol
SMITH Orrie / SMITH Tom
SPENCER Gladys / SPINWEBER Dotty
SPOERER Nancy / STARK Pat
STONEHOUSE Al / STRACHER Bob
STREELMAN Dennis / STRUCK Marie
TERHUNE Linda / THOMPSON Edith
TURNBULL Ann / VERDUIN Janice
WALSH Loretta / WENZ Fred Jr
WHITELY Colleen / WIERDO Mary Anne
WILLIAMS Peggy / WILSON Bob
WITTE Pat / WOLFF Dotty
ZACCO John / ZIMMERMAN Al
The REUNION Place
FARNKOFF Irene / FARRELL Warren

31,  32.   THE TWO CLASSMATES SHOWN ON THIS PAGE ARE:  Irene Farnkoff and Warren Farrell




31.   FARNKOFF, Irene

               


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PROFILE:








32.   FARRELL, Warren

           Warren and his wife, Liz, are now living in Mill Valley, CA (just north of San Francisco)

An INTRODUCTION  (as written by the skinny guy above) --

Following Dave Kay's evocation to show the evolution of our appearance from Midland Park High School in 1961 to present (something it's easy for Dave to ask for, since he and Dan have only gotten better looking with the years), here we go.....  In my case this "evolution" might be more objectively revealed by my books' jackets.  So, with a nod to Dave, here's the deterioration of my body, as revealed by the photos on my books' jackets; and the evolution of my mind, for better and worse, as revealed by the content between the covers. :) 



PHOTOS:

1974   From flattop at Midland Park High, to -- 13 years later -- my quasi-liberated hair and "successful hippie" dress, manifested on the jacket of my new book:  "The Liberated Man"...... the beginning of the lifelong ambivalence as to what being liberated really means.................. !!



1986  -- After publication of my book : "Why Men Are the Way They Are", and not really knowing why men are the way they are, I used a white sweater to cover up what might give me the answer.  I have this book (and Oprah) to thank for taking me around the world at a time that I was old enough to appreciate it and young enough to use the frequent flyer miles.



1993 -- This picture, on the jacket of "The Myth of Male Power" in 1993, is my favorite picture, on my favorite book  (the picture is taken at enough distance to cover up the flaws)....



2002 (August) --  Liz Dowling and I culminate an eight-year courtship with the best day of my life:  our wedding day.



2004 (left), 2005 (right):  Here is the gray hair that some publishers had kept off of my earlier books, but by 2005, I guess the new publishers felt it to be compatible with the title of the book it illustrated: "Why Men Earn More--and What Women Can Do About It".  The book, well, earned less.



2010   After a lifetime of thinking that cruises were for old fogies, it seems that maybe WE have become the old fogies (OK, OK,  I  became the old fogie...)



2010  One of the joys of my life has been helping to parent Alex and Erin from girls to women (ages 6 and 7 to their mid-20's); and from Liz's daughters to our daughters. Here we share a moment together in the front yard of our home in Mill Valley, California. (Mill Valley is quasi-infamous for hot tubs, and yes, that's a hot tub you see; and no, we're not going to all fit in it!)



2010 --  left:  with step-daughterAlex;     Right:  Liz with daughter Erin.



Here, in 2011, in Death Valley, Liz took a picture of me getting a live glimpse of death's valley.  Walking in the valley of the shadow of death inspires me to both savor the memories of our classmates who have joined the rocks of ages, and rejoice at the anticipation of being with each of us who are fortunate enough to reunite. 



2011 (May) -- The Three Musketeers ---  at the IZOD Center in New Jersey, with Denis Nadas (left) and Dave Kay (right).  I'd just been awared an Honorary Doctorate by Montclair State University, my Alma Mater.  However, I was more honored to be joined by Denis and David of MPHS fame...!




PROFILE
:

At MPHS, Ron Haas' pedagogic brilliance inspired me to become an English teacher instead of an attorney.  So I went to Montclair State.  I soon realized that I had politics and the social sciences too deep in my psyche -- and changed majors.  With barely repressed thoughts about going into politics, I decided to major in political science for my M.A. at UCLA. That gave me the West Coast bug, but Ursie, a woman I fell in love with while I was at Montclair State, had gone to Harvard and got a fabulous opportunity in NYC.  So, she and I married, and I did my Ph.D. in political science at NYU.  However, my opposition to the Vietnam war convinced me that politics would be a lifetime of masochism.  End of that ambition.

While completing my Ph.D., the women's movement surfaced.  It energized me, and I changed my dissertation to a forecast of its political implications.  That led to my election to the Board of the National Organization for Women in NYC, which in turn led to my speaking around the world on why women's issues were important to men.  It also led to my writing for The New York Times, doing lots of Phil Donahue and Today shows, and running around the world on multiple tracks.  Meantime, Ursie became a White House Fellow and we moved to D.C. where I became "the wife of a Fellow." :) Soon articles on men and women's politics turned into books--and a career.

Ursie and I supported each other to grow in two opposite directions: corporate type and author type.  We divorced.  I moved to San Diego.  For twenty years of adventuresome single-hood,  I searched for "the right fit."  Eventually, some 17 years ago, I was introduced to Liz -- and after an eight-year courtship, we married.

Professionally, as the women's movement helped the women of industrialized nations expand their options, I increasingly noted that men and boys were falling behind psychologically and academically.  So I turned my focus to helping boys and men make their transition in what I felt should ideally be a gender transition movement. I felt that if only one sex wins, both sexes lose. That transition on my part cost me dearly as a professional, but it feels like an increasingly needed balance.

My current professional passions are writing a book with John Gray to be called Boys to Men; being an expert witness for children to have both parents' involvement; and conducting couples' communication workshops.  I've come to feel that the Achilles' heel of all humans is our inability to handle personal criticism, so my workshops train couples how to emotionally associate personal criticism with love rather than feel destroyed by it.

My current personal joy is deepening my relationship with Liz and watching our daughters become unique women who are in touch with who they wish to become.

I am looking forward to hearing about how a half century has molded your life and passion.

October 2011:
Here's what Warren WOULD have said at the 50-yr Reunion in Midland Park, had there been
   (1) enough time;   and  (2)  a good, loud microphone..... !!     :=)










32.   Fells, Jim


    Jim lives on Floral Lane in Midland Park




PHOTOS:

About 2008??



Here's the BIGGER picture......  with several fellow classmates of MPHS........  Pictured are:
Back row:  Richard Eldridge, Rich McLaughlin, Hank Degenaars, Jim Cooper, Jim Fells, & Bill McLaughlin;    Front row: Barbara Hazen Eldridge, Nancy Spoerer Degenaars, Lillian Hanas, Laurie Cooper and Betty Nagelhout.




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